In any relationship, trust is key. I’ve found that communication is the cornerstone to earning trust. Blindfolds and handcuffs can be overwhelming, so keep in constant communication with your partner and in the beginning make it easy for them to slip out or step away from anything uncomfortable. It may help, to let them experiment on you first.

 

1.   Scarves or any fabric really. Use to tie up or down, blindfold or do both with           your lover. Get creative and try a variety of textures to stimulate the senses.

 

2.   Ice. “Sensation is everything,”V5 Gold Rush, While your lover is blindfolded           and or tied down, try crunching on ice in their ear, or sliding the cold & wet         down their body. Keep in mind of the 5 senses: touch, taste, smell, sound &           sight (or lack thereof).

 

3.   Food. Chocolate, whip cream & strawberries top the list. Tease, feed, and               reward your lover with their favorite flavors. I find that laying down an old           sheet to prevent a mess can alleviate any stress. This works well with #1

 

4.   Oil. Coconut or olive oil. Rub, massage or just get slippery. Again, know your          partner, will they be worrying about ruining the bedding rather than enjoy           the game? Find and old blanket or purchase something specifically for play           time.

 

5.   Pudding, food coloring & an old sheet. (yes this is 3 things) Add food coloring       to vanilla pudding or yogurt, lay down a sheet (or pin it up) and start painting       each other. Now, use the sheet as your canvas.

 

6.   Pillows. 1 or all of them. Prop up your lover in a new position or several.

 

7.   Cat toys. Make your own. Tie feathers, a piece of lace, or even leather to a             stick or pole, than tease to please. If using a cat toy (a new one preferably)           keep the bell, it will aid in stimulating the senses.